So what makes someone a good listener? It goes far beyond just nodding and agreeing, it actually can be considered an art form.
A good listener possesses certain qualities. They engage with the person, repeat what was said, showing the other that they are being heard and making sure of what was said. They also ask questions, trying to get to the real problem that lies deeper than what was said up front.
For some individuals it is quite easy and convenient to find a friend, family member, or others, that they are comfortable within having candid conversations with. For others it can be a real challenge to find someone they trust and are comfortable enough with in “bearing their soul” to.
Loneliness and isolation can strike anyone, at any time, for a variety of reasons. We all know that the pandemic caused many people to become isolated and lonely, by making it very difficult, if not impossible, to maintain social connections.
For those who are challenged to find a good listener among friends and family, etc., joining a club or volunteering with others with common interests is good place to start. Over time you may find a new and close friend that you are comfortable enough with to have personal and private conversations with.
Social workers and therapists, are another option for someone to seek in finding someone that you can be truly candid with. They are trained in listening skills, and they may help you to deepen relationships with existing friends and family.